After reflecting on my progress with online dating during a morning run, I went home and proceeded to delete Tinder and Bumble from my phone. Is this a rash decision? Absolutely not. I’m still single, 28 years old, and I’m okay with not having an online dating profile.
I compiled all my thoughts about swipe dating apps into this blog post. If you haven’t already done so, I hope I can convince you to delete your online dating profiles. Here are 15 reasons why you should delete Tinder and Bumble from your phone right now.
1. Tinder Dates Rarely Look like Their Profile Pictures
In the age of social media, dating profiles contain a carefully crafted collection of pictures that can portray an inaccurate representation of a person. I’m not saying that these pictures are Photoshopped, but it’s so easy to apply a filter or even out your skin tone with an app that lots of Millennials and Gen Zers do this regularly.
Additionally, when creating a Tinder or Bumble profile, you must select just 5 or 6 photos of yourself. These photos are going to be the ones of your good side that make you look most attractive, of course.
All I’m saying is that these handful of photos may not accurately portray what a person looks like in real life.
2. You’re Wasting Hours of Your Life Swiping
I’m honest enough to admit that I probably spent close to 8 hours a week on Tinder and Bumble. This includes swiping, reading profiles, and chatting with matches. I would find myself swiping in the morning, in the car, at work, and in bed at night.
After my 5 week stint with Tinder and Bumble, I can now sadly say that I will never get those 40 hours of my life back. Do yourself a favor, delete Tinder, and stop wasting away your life swiping.
3. If It’s Not a Hell Yes, It’s a No
Contrary to my friend’s advice, I couldn’t put effort into pursuing someone who I’m not genuinely interested in. I never had that gut feeling that she was the one for me. Without that gut feeling, I simply cannot continue in a relationship that I’m not fully vested in. I see it as a means without an end.
If it’s not clear by now, I may be one of the very few who was using Tinder and Bumble to find love and not a hookup.
4. You Spend Enough Time in Front of a Screen
I don’t know about you, but the majority of my waking day is spent in front of a screen of some sort. I’m at a computer screen for 8 hours at my job. I probably spend at least an hour on my phone everyday. And I rarely watch TV, but when I do, that counts as screen time.
Limiting your screen time is a very healthy habit to master. Your 60-year-old eyes, brain, and heart will thank you when you aren’t suffering from the long term effects of a sedentary lifestyle. Delete Tinder now for a step towards a healthier lifestyle.
5. You Won’t Be Tempted to Purchase Tinder Gold
I’ll admit it. I bought a subscription to Tinder Gold and Tinder Plus. Twice. Don’t judge—I never paid out of pocket for it, and it was only for 1 month at a time. I used my Google Play credits that I earned from taking surveys with the Google Opinion Rewards app.
My justification for purchasing Tinder Gold and Tinder Plus was that I wouldn’t have to waste time swiping anymore. With Tinder Gold, you can see who likes you before you match with them. I can say from experience that Tinder Gold is not worth it. Definitely don’t waste your money on Tinder Gold. Better yet, delete Tinder from your phone all together and be done with it.
6. One (or Two) Less Apps to Drain Your Battery
That right, your phone will last longer when you delete Tinder and Bumble. Not only will you not be draining your phone’s battery when actively using the apps, but these apps will not be constantly running in the background checking for matches and notifications.
Even more, you data usage will drop significantly when you delete Tinder and Bumble. Wether you realize it or not, you’re downloading megabytes of data as you are swiping through all those pictures.
7. You’ll Save Yourself from Carpal Tunnel of the Thumb
A repetitive strain injury is an injury to the musculoskeletal and nervous systems that may be caused by repetitive tasks. Repeatedly swiping right (or left) hundreds or thousands of times isn’t necessarily good for your body. Avoiding this and similarly straining and repetitive motions is a good way to prevent such an injury to your body.
8. You’ll Never Have to Say “We Met on Tinder”
It’s not very romantic to say that you met your partner on Tinder or Bumble. If you are embarrassed about this fact, you can both lie and make up an alternative story about how you met, but that’s not an ethical thing to do. It’s best to avoid this situation and meet your future partner offline.
Even worse, when your kids ask you where you and your future spouse met, you won’t have to explain to them that you met on an app that some people use for finding love but most people use for finding hookups.
9. It’s Still Possible to Meet People in Real Life
Online dating is quite popular nowadays, and honestly I have nothing against it. I just want to reiterate the fact that it is possible to meet someone offline. And when I say offline, I mean in real life—like at the grocery store, on a walk, or at the gym.
Yes, it takes a bit more courage to approach someone and start a conversation with them. But at least your interaction with them will be unfiltered and authentic. You’ll both know within a minute if you’re interested in each other. If so, perfect! Otherwise, you can give yourself a pat on the back for trying, and you’ll be more confident next time this opportunity arises.
10. Your Profile Pictures Won’t Be Screenshot by Creeps
You know how there’s a bunch of fake Tinder and Bumble accounts? They are usually easily identifiable because they have pictures of nearly naked models with provocative facial expressions.
Well these accounts are primarily click bait. They want you to click through to their website or Instagram account which is linked in their bio. Many times, these profiles (and other less suspecting profiles) are run by users who look nothing like the person in the pictures. These are what I like to call creeps because who the heck knows what their doing with your pictures and information. Worst of all, Tinder and Bumble tell them how far away you are from each other.
Now that I hopefully scared you, just make sure to remove all your pictures and delete your account before you uninstall Tinder and Bumble.
11. No One Will Unmatch You Out of the Blue Anymore
There have been a couple times where I was having engaging conversation with someone who I was actually feeling a connection with. The next time I opened the app, the conversation disappeared from my feed as if it never took place.
This occurs when the other user unmatches you. For what reason? I couldn’t tell you. But it’s not a good feeling, especially if you started to, dare I say it, like the person.
12. Matches Are Made Based on Looks Alone
It’s kind of disgusting that you and everyone else on Tinder and Bumble are matching primarily based on looks. This is a very superficial way of approaching dating, assuming that’s what your intentions are in the first place.
It can and has worked out in the past. Plenty of people who are now happily married have met on Tinder or Bumble. But based on my experience, this is probably a rarity and should not be anticipated.
At least with other online dating, matches are based on common interests and desires. Tinder and Bumble do have a bio where you can insert a short description, but these go unread most of the time until an actual match is made.
13. The Swipe-to-Date Ratio is Super High
I’ve had a total of 5 dates over the course of 5 weeks thanks to Tinder and Bumble. Like I previously mentioned, I estimate that this required 40 hours of swiping and chatting. If I had to guess, my swipe-to-date ratio was probably 1000:1.
Is it worth the effort? Not in my case. None of my dates resulted in a second date. Either she was not interested and I was somewhat interested, or I was not interested and she was.
What I’m trying to say here is that the amount of time that you invest in using Tinder and Bumble to find a match is not worth the effort, especially when nothing happens after the first date. Best thing to do is delete Tinder and Bumble from you phone and avoid the wasted effort.
14. You Won’t Lower Your Standards Just to Get a Match
Many times, I would go a day or two without getting a match. This would cause me to lower my standards for the sake of getting a match. In other words, I was looking for an ego boost, even though I knew deep down that I wasn’t going to pursue this individual.
Don’t take this the wrong way. I do realize that getting matches on Tinder and Bumble are based on looks alone. I played the game just the same as anyone else. If you strike it lucky and get a good looking match that you’re compatible with, I’m super happy for you. But just know that lowering your standards for an ego boost isn’t productive.
15. You Won’t Feel the Need to Swipe When Your Bored
I rarely go on Facebook and Instagram when I’m bored just to kill time. This is something that I’m very proud of because I see a lot of my peers with this terrible habit. But when I had Tinder and Bumble installed on my phone, I would swipe in all of my spare time.
I first tried to combat this rapidly developing habit by turning off notifications and removing the apps from my home screen. But this didn’t help. I would find myself swiping in meetings, on the toilet, and in the car.
The only way to stop this addiction is to delete Tinder and Bumble from your phone. I guarantee that you’ll have such sense of relief when your not filling your time with this mindless swiping.